In 18 Century there were rules for courting. Arguably it was a better time to meet a man or a woman back then than now.

Today, it's all broken down and we don't know what to do when we meet.

Are we shaking hands? Are we kissing one cheek? Are we kissing two cheeks? Are we slapping each other on the back? Or are we not to do anything? It's all broken down. There are no rules now.

Maybe we should bring back the codes of conduct between young people when courting? Or do you disagree with me and believe we should simply thrown off the shackles of etiquette?

Maybe we should embrace tradition just a bit more and have a man stand up when a lady walks into the room and bow, or do you once again disagree, and think it's too repressed or over-formalised?

Picture it and think about it ......

People don't really touch back then, women don't shake hands with men. That probably makes the first skin-on-skin touch a beautiful moment.

Today, we don't think twice about that at all. People shakes people's hand and give them a kiss, whatever. Wouldn't it be interesting to think that if you don't have that tactile nature, how important one touch can be? As opposed to someone coming up to you, and going "I fancy you", "here is my number".

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First of all, it's weird to shake hands with a grl... I don't think I've ever done that.

A simple nod would do these days if u see a grl for the first time...
It's different for every culture I guess, with western culture, it's just normal to kiss a grl on the cheek, but with Chinese culture it feels rather awkward for some reason, maybe we just not so accustomed to such "personal" gesture. If u r up to the stage of kissing an Asian grl just for greeting, I guess then u r pretty close to that grl already...

I still remember quite some time ago, was with my ex back then, met a friend, it's was like Hi~ Muah~ How have u been? O yeh~ Life's great, sure sure, catch ya next time and keep in touch... The my ex was like, "so... that's how u greet a grl? Gee, seems like u guys are so natural at it, the timing was perfect, she leaned u kiss, and u gonna keep in touch with her yeh~ O great~ yada yada yada..." (Spent the next half an hour explaining and swear not to do it again with anyone...) LOL The norm is very different in every person's eyes...

I expressed herein my compassion for those that fails to appreciate history and tradition, and loathe those that belittles such importance. Though I must say you have indefinitely impressed me by responding to my post and have actually put some thoughts to it.

Initially, I have lost expectation of receiving any thoughtful replies after comments made by few. Glad to see your interesting opinion, and I concur with what you said that "the norm is very different in every person's eyes...".

I just thought it would be interesting to see who shares similar opinion as me, and who are indifferent.

Men not longer stand and bow when a woman comes through the door, just as a women no longer have to leave their hand out for the man to kiss.

By the way, no ones does the "Hi, you're cute, can I have your number?" anymore. Hardly any couple even asked each other out officially. How often do you come across someone that you really fancy, and forget to ask them if and where you could see them again? Only to bump into them the 2nd time?

ni men dou  hao  li hai  a , wo  shi  lai  dao jiang hu de  

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原帖由 mi.ka 于 15/5/2008 23:25 发表

I expressed herein my compassion for those that fails to appreciate history and tradition, and loathe those that belittles such importance. Though I must say you have indefinitely impressed me by responding to my post and have actually put some thoughts to it.

Initially, I have lost expectation of receiving any thoughtful replies after comments made by few. Glad to see your interesting opinion, and I concur with what you said that "the norm is very different in every person's eyes...".

I just thought it would be interesting to see who shares similar opinion as me, and who are indifferent.

u must be a Psyc student... Can u try to Drop the essay tone and be more colloquial please...
Though I would like to relive my uni life, but reading and writing essays is a moment that I definately rather 4get...
Using such tone to embrace the olden writing styleis definately impressive and entertaining... But on a chinese BBS it could rather be a waste of time...

"I expressed herein my compassion for those that fails to appreciate history and tradition, and loathe those that belittles such importance" ---------- Who writes like this these days???
It definately gives u a Jane Austen like type of poetic smoothly crafted piece of literature but does it serve its purpose? Does it convey its intended msg across?
Don't u think "I sympathize/feel sorry for those that fails to appreciate history and tradition, and dislike those that think it's insignificant"... Would be much easier to comprehend?

Just my pesonal point of view, if you would like to get your msg across to a wider audience and expect some quality responses...

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原帖由 Abe 于 2008年5月15日 22:13 发表
Men not longer stand and bow when a woman comes through the door, just as a women no longer have to leave their hand out for the man to kiss.

By the way, no ones does the "Hi, you're cut ...

Maybe we should organise a 18 century party, bring back the tradition and see how it feels like to have men stand up and bow as a woman comes through the door.

Shaking hands to clients with occasion kiss on one cheek or two cheeks are like daily practice at most offices. I do not fancy it, but it’s hard not to follow pursuit when people do extend their hand to you or to put their face against yours.

Are you sure about “no one does the "Hi, you're cute, can I have your number?" anymore.” You will be surprised at how often women get asked by men for numbers on first meeting; men get asked too, but probably not as often as women.

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原帖由 乃记西特 于 2008年5月15日 22:20 发表
ni men dou  hao  li hai  a , wo  shi  lai  dao jiang hu de  

Ni ye shi ya, pin ying xie de bu cuo.   Dan shi kan de wo hao lei o

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原帖由 dj-wiso 于 2008年5月16日 09:31 发表



u must be a Psyc student... Can u try to Drop the essay tone and be more colloquial please...
Though I would like to relive my uni life, but reading and writing essays is a moment that I  ...

It sounds like essay?

Guess I will just have to learn how to talk more colloquial from you .

I can do that in Chinese but not in English